I asked a few people online and they delivered by telling me to man up and tell her. She's hit it off with a really great local Dom. that she met thru personals. They've chatted for a couple days now and will hopefully continue to do so until we're comfortable meeting. :) He's patient and loves the idea of easing into it and including me which makes me all the more comfortable.
I've told her about my submissive side and discovered that I'm a total 'switch' or whatever you call it. I've been Daddy for a while now and that's my daily role. But I have a very submissive sexual side that I kept hidden for our entire relationship because I was supposed to be the dominant one. I hurt myself a few times over it. This really messed with my anxiety, confidence and basically everything else.
Well, like I said I told her I had a deeply submissive side and she LOVES it. Turns out she has a bit of a dominant side and a pegging kink. She's looking at chastity cages, strap ons and just...ugh.
Our entire relationship dynamic has changed. We are both FAR less stressed and unhappy. You can feel the weight that was lifted and it's absolutely amazing. And the sex..oh god the sex is amazing. It'll go from me being a total Dom to her grabbing my hair and taking control, talking about other guys big, thick cocks stretching her out.
Everything is so much better.
FUCK MY WIFE!